Backlash

If you can't say something nice, or at least constructively critical, then don't say nothing at all. My last post explained that whether you agree with me or not I would respect your stand, and I hoped you would have enough respect for me to do that same. Look people, I am not an advocate for the downfall of humanity because I am willing to love people who have made mistakes or have chosen a different lifestyle than I have.

I am responsible for me, and for my life with my husband. I follow my moral compass, trying my best, and realizing that I am not a perfected soul. That would be why I am here doing my best to make it through this life. With that said, I am intollerant of very few things. Evil, hatred, and intollerance, oh, and stupidity, but that is another entry entirely. Just because I love my aunt doesn't mean I am a rabid pro homosexuality advocate. I understand that there are people with urges they find hard to control, like my husbands uncle who is gay, but has chosen to not live that lifestyle any longer. So he is still unmarried and will spend the rest of his life alone because he wants to be religious, but he doesn't feel it is fair to marry a woman when he won't be able to meet her needs. He is a good man, and I wish him much happiness. No matter how I look at it my aunt and my husband's uncle are fantastic and amazing people. Their personal choices do not make me cease loving them. I am not God; it is not my right or place to judge their lives.

I can't understand why so many people are intollerant to the degree of hatred. Free agency ... the key to this life ... belongs to each soul. I am a heterosexual woman who believes that marriage is a sacred and beautiful bond that a man and woman share. Just because I support my homosexual friends and family doesn't mean that I am bound for hell. After all, I am not perfect, and I believe that he who is without sin can then, and only then, cast the first stone.

Here is a very imperfect example (since my friends and family are not from a different culture, just a different lifestyle) but there is something within that explains, at least in part, why I feel as I do. I have been thinking of Gabriel, from the movie The Mission, a Jesuit priest trying to love those he taught. He was told he had to cast aside his desires to help these people, to cease his love for them and and no longer bring them the joy of knowing God. For years he had talked to them of God, and shown them His Goodness; they in return had shown Gabriel much of beauty and joy. He didn't try to change the people he taught; Gabriel let God change them. Then suddenly he was asked to cease loving them and return to Spain. These people were his family. He was told he had to fight them, or desert them. He refused to do either. He stayed with them, to love them, and to let God decide His fate. To quote , "If might is right (in reference to taking up arms), then love has no place in the world. It may be so, it may be so. But I don't have the strength to live in a world like that. " We CAN NOT claim to be Christians, and then cease to be in the face of something that offends our Christian sensibilities. God said love the sinner, hate the sin. We can not cease to love and care about people who live differently from us, or we cease to be the kind and loving people that our God expects us to be.

Yes, I know there are things worth fighting for ... and I understand the concerns that people have about various scenarios and choices others make. But I believe in free agency, every person gets to choose their life and how they will live. Homosexuality is a personal choice or an embedded desire, and those who live that lifestyle are still good people, with dreams, and depths of joy and sorrow. Their choices don't effect my ability to live as I choose, thus it isn't a 'war topic' to me. With that in mind, I would appreciate less tripe, and more sensible discussion.