Part of it is her ADHD, part of it is never learning better, but a healthy chunk of it is simply the fact that she is ... a kid. So I am remembering how hard it is to be a kid. I spend a lot of my day chanting in my brain, "Praise her often. Pick your fights. It is NOT worth the stress." And I can say that this week since making the effort, things have been so much better. She has been fantastic, especially for a 10 year old. So that is that. Things are good here. I still love being a mom. Sometimes I miss my quiet time -- it no longer exists -- but for the most part I am happy. Goofy happy. Hope all is well with all of you. Blog people, I have nothing to read :)
14 June 2010
Convincing the Kid
Ironic how what makes perfect sense to an adult doesn't make sense to a kid at all. Most of the time I just sit back and smile. She makes things much harder than they need to be about half the time, and oversimplifies them the other half. I do my best to just smile and smooth out the rough edges. Funny how not everything we do as parents (even when in an honest attempt to help) actually accomplishes what we were hoping for. My daughter is a good kid. I mean it. She has her days that make me lose my hair, but mostly she is just a really good kid. She tries to do things that please me, but I have to constantly remind her to do the common sense things (that don't make sense to her).
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The main key to mothering: "A soft answer turneth away wrath" --now that I think about it, it is pretty much the key to EVERYTHING!
unless it's a 2 year old, then it's a cookie. *giggle*
She's just trying to find her boundaries with you. In time she'll be comfortable with your rules and even be grateful for them.
Amen to both the previous comments. Love you! Your are doing a great job and a fantastic thing for Selena. I love you!
Finally had a chance to catch up on things thru your blog :) I hope you already know all this, but I wish I had the chance to have as incredible people in my life during the 4 years I spent in foster care or the 14 years I spent in hell. I love you so much for what you're doing and because you're doing it for all the right reasons.
Sorry we're having so much trouble reaching eaching other but your in my thoughts & prayers.
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